It’s not uncommon for people to find themselves indulging in self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder their own progress when seeing a counselling professional. The fascinating thing about this is that most people never realize why or when they’re in their own way. Remember therapy usually involves being vulnerable and opening up on some pretty murky feelings and subjects in your life. It’s so easy to make excuses or just fail to recognize patterns of behavior in yourself during therapy sessions. A good treatment option that not many people think of is cognitive behavioural therapy or cbt therapy, this can radically change your behaviours so you can live a for filled life.
While you may be adopting these behaviors to protect yourself rom thinking or feeling hurting and painful things, you’re interfering with your emotional growth. Here are some self-sabotaging behaviors to look out for during therapy.
You Avoid Disclosing Big Past Events
It’s always challenging and difficult to be vulnerable and share sensitive information with anyone. Your counselling professional may offer a thorough intake assessment with questions but you may try to avoid digging up certain experiences you’ve had. Understand that you don’t have to necessarily share all the details of your story. However, opening up on the parts that give you feelings of sadness, unhappiness, anger, shame, and other painful emotions is important.
Take time to get comfortable with your therapist or counselor so you can work together on disclosing significant information in a contained, safe way. Be fully honest about the feelings, emotions, and underlying issues you’re struggling with.
You’re not applying the Skills You’re Learning in Therapy
It’s important that you do what your counselling professional instructs you to do outside of the therapy sessions. Failure to apply whatever you’re learning in therapy can sabotage your own progress. You can refine your beliefs and perspectives about the world through trial and error. Take time to experiment the skills you’re learning and you’ll be amazed at how much progress you’ll make.
You’re frequently late or Cancel Sessions
Frequently showing up late or canceling your sessions could reflect an attempt to avoid dealing with the feelings and emotions that you’re experiencing in therapy. You don’t want to avoid your sessions as you’ll be sabotaging your own progress. Identify any urges to skip sessions or avoid your therapist and make him or her aware of how you’re feeling.
It could be that you don’t feel safe with your therapist or don’t trust them, hence the need to find a different counselling professional. The urge could be as a result of a fear of facing and dealing with your feelings and emotions after sessions as well. Discuss with your therapist so they can scale things back to a pace you’re feel safe and comfortable.
You’re Using Therapy Solely to Vent
Venting is productive and should be encouraged. However, it’s not everything you’re supposed to do during therapy. You don’t want to get stuck in the venting mode. That explains why it’s important to have goals for each session. What behaviors, feelings, patterns, or emotions are you looking to unravel? Your focus should be to explore your goals and objectives with your counsellor or therapist, and do everything possible to hit the brakes on venting as soon as you notice it’s getting in the way of your ultimate objectives.